Subtle Flirty Questions You Can Ask your Crush

Dating columns and self-help books tell you to be yourself and have the guts to ask your crush point blank about the way he or she feels about you. We’re here to tell you that it’s not your first line of defense. You can actually ask them a round of questions that can give you the best insight on how they see you – as just- friends or maybe more.

Mind-reading tactics
If mind reading were an available superpower to the masses, there would be no need for this feature. Sadly, since only the super-secret elite and imaginary have this power, you will have to settle for the ordinary alternative: reading into things.
Research has proven that you can tell what a person is thinking through body language, micro-expressions and significant tells. These methods need to be studied for years before you can presume to know how a person thinks.
The easy route can be accessed from the comfort of your own home via their social media accounts. You can learn a lot about a person from their photos, public correspondence, the music they listen to and even the things that they like on Facebook. People tend to express their thoughts using Tweets and show their experiences using Facebook and Instagram.
We’re not saying that you should invest your energy in researching into everything about them online, but it does help if you see what they’re up to now and again. The little things you notice can help you start a few conversations. Who knows? This could be your first step to a long and lasting relationship.
What to ask your crush to know if they like you or not
Since you’re pressed for time and really need to know if your crush likes you or not, we’ve developed a list of questions you can ask your crush. Their answers and reactions will give you an idea about what their intentions are towards you.

#1 Do you know this band that I really love?
 First, ask them what their favorite music is. When they answer you, tell them about a really obscure band in a similar genre that you like and ask them if they like that band. If you don’t like any obscure bands, find one that may be unfamiliar to your crush.
They like you if… they say they don’t know the band and would really love to listen to them sometime… preferably with you. If they make an effort to find the band and give you their thoughts on it, then they probably like you even without the invite.
They don’t if… they say yes or no and leave the conversation at that.

#2 Have you been to that place on the other side of town that no one’s ever heard of?  
Ask them if they’ve been to this out-of-the-way restaurant you recently discovered. Tell them that you really love the Thursday night Chef’s Special and that they should try it sometime.
They like you if… they ask you to accompany them to said restaurant. If not, they can also ask you what other types of food you like. Your crush showing an interest in your likes and dislikes is a good sign.
They don’t if… they ask you for the address and gush about how so-and-so would probably love to go there.

#3 How did you do on that activity I almost failed in?
 Find out which subject they excel at in school or which department they belong to in their company. Tell them that you’ve been having some problems about a particular activity related to what they’re good at and mention that you have no idea what to do about it.
They like you if… they offer to tutor you or teach you about it while you both get coffee. If they don’t ask you out just yet, they might try to use the topic as an excuse to talk to you more in the future.
They don’t if… they pawn you off to somebody who knows more about the subject than they do.

#4 What’s the right way to do this exciting new hobby that I have?  
Start a new hobby or mention one that you crush also happens to be doing. Ask them anything about that hobby.
They like you if… they invite you to spend time with them doing that hobby. They could also give you some tips and tricks you could use when you’re not together. If they are enthusiastic about your involvement in the activity, you may need to invest full-time on it or admit that you were only trying to see what they liked about it so much.
They don’t if… they tell you a few things about that hobby and how awesome it was the last time they did it. Nothing more.

#5 What’s your type?
 This may seem like a pretty obvious hint about your feelings at first, but you can avoid blowing your cover by saying that you might have a crush and that you would really like their point of view on the subject.
They like you if… they describe the exact same person as you. If they stammer, blush or laugh about the question, it could be a sign that they like you. It could also mean that they know you like them. It’s not an absolute confirmation, but it’s the step in the right direction.
They don’t if… they give you a straight answer describing a person who could very well be your polar opposite. They may describe a person with certain similarities, but they could just be saying that to humor your unexpectedly awkward question.

#6 Are you seeing someone now?
Another obvious question, but these types of in-your-face tell-me-you-love-me-or-not questions are just a precursor to what’s really on your mind – studying their reaction to the question.
They like you if… they vehemently deny it. When a person asks a question like this, it’s easy to assume that you’re asking because you’re looking to fill in that position. If they are single and they like you, they will use the opportunity to express how they really feel about you *or at least hint about it*. It’s all about making your own windows of opportunity.
They don’t if… the answer to your question is “yes.” If they’re single, they may mention some of the reasons they’re not looking to date right now. They may also say that they haven’t found the right person yet.

Although these questions can help nudge you in the right direction, they should not be considered as an absolute confirmation as to whether your crush likes you. Their answers and reactions could mean one thing or another.
The best way to know if your crush likes you is to actually experience their affection firsthand. If nothing clicks and they don’t seem to be interested in getting to know you more, then maybe you may need to step up and express what you feel.
I wish there was an indirect yet telling question out there that could explicitly verify that your crush likes you without being too obvious, but there isn’t. The good thing, though, is that you now have a bunch of stuff to ask your crush that can lead to a great conversation!

Everything You Need to Know About a Flirtationship

Google “flirtationship” and you’ll find definitions ranging from the hilarious to the heartbreaking. We’re here to clue you in on what it’s all about. 

 

A flirtationship is a relationship between two friends, where both people engage in flirtatious behavior without the promise of becoming anything more. This is very different from the Friend Zone and the Friends with Benefits. A flirtationship is situated somewhere in between those two.
A flirtationship is something that develops between two friends who are aware that they have an attraction for each other but cannot or choose not to pursue it because of extenuating circumstances. Though you may give hints or you may exchange sweet words, it’s never explicitly stated if there really is an attraction there.
What happens in a flirtationship?
One or two things happen in a flirtationship. Two people will start flirting with each other by doing thoughtful things for each other, giving each other pet names or talking to each other as if they were in an actual relationship.
They don’t kiss or have sex. The most intimate thing they can do is hug and hold hands. It’s not that it’s not allowed. It’s because doing anything physically intimate than those things can lead to various complications.

Why do people get into flirtationships?
It’s not something that most people set out to do. It usually happens because two friends decide that they like each other, but can’t be romantically involved because of different reasons. The reasons are usually as follows:

#1 They have a girlfriend/boyfriend. 
 Without discussing the moral implications of this one, this is usually the reason why most flirtationships can’t progress into a real relationship. People flirt with other people for the thrill or just to try something new. Other times, it is caused by dissatisfaction in the current relationship.

#2 The age difference. 
Legalities aside, a huge age difference can prevent two people from having a relationship. Their families might not agree to it and society also isn’t that forgiving. So, the best thing they can do to avoid any emotional backlash is to not get together at all. If they can’t fight the power, the best thing they can do is admire each other from afar and engage in a flirtationship.

#3 The ex.
It could be that their ex is crazy or maybe one of you has just broken up with your last partner. Either way, dating someone publicly with those factors in mind can seem inappropriate or downright improbable. A flirtationship will do for now, but this type can progress to something deeper if the ex is out of the picture.

#4 One of you isn’t ready.
  Whoever holds the reins on this decision is the one who decides whether it will remain a flirtationship or not. By not making any promises, they can still spend time with the person they like without having to commit to anything. The downside is they can’t do anything more than flirt with their “friend.”

#5 Distance.
  If two people can’t get together because they’re hundreds or thousands of miles away, what else can they do but Skype and text? A flirtationship usually develops, but nothing else can happen unless someone is willing to bridge that continental gap.

Why stay and not take it to the next level?
Sometimes, the people in a flirtationship can be brave enough to upgrade their situation. Other times, the circumstances mentioned above prove to be too difficult to overcome. When that happens, all they can do is engage in a harmless flirtationship that promises nothing more than a few smiley emoticons and a haphazard XOXO.
It could also be that neither one wants to do anything about it because they’re comfortable in the situation. Another reason could be that they don’t want to ruin their flirtationship by speaking up and potentially scaring their partner away. No matter what the reason, both people in a flirtationship should agree that they want to take whatever it is they have to the next level.
If they don’t, there are a lot of consequences for what they are doing. Someone could fall in love. Someone could get caught by their girlfriend or boyfriend. Most of the time, flirtationships end with someone’s heart broken.

How do you know if you are in a flirtationship?
It’s fairly obvious if you are indeed in a flirtationship. When the person you like is flirting with you and you’re flirting back, the flirtationship has begun. When this flirtation becomes stagnant because neither of you want to take it further, you can then confirm that it is definitely a flirtationship.
Most people don’t label it at all unless someone asks. Since this is reserved for people who don’t want to be in relationships, yet don’t want to sleep with each other either, there’s no other way to put it.

10 signs that you are in a flirtationship
How can you tell if you’re in a flirtationship or you’re just talking to someone who’s just super friendly with you? Let’s clarify your status with these signs.

#1 You send each other cute and adorable texts about how your day went.
You can also talk about other things, while still squeezing in a few harmless flirty texts and messages.

#2 You don’t pay for each other’s food or stuff, unless it’s someone’s birthday. 
Being in a flirtationship means that you are not eligible for the fringe benefits that an actual relationship provides. Unless you’re willing to put your heart on the table, you’re paying for your own dinner.

#3 You give each other a pet name. 
 It can be the generic “baby” or “babe,” but most people in flirtationships develop their own pet names that also double as an inside joke. This makes it more evident that you are still friends even while you’re flirting.

#4 You don’t kiss at all. 
You want to, but it’s “forbidden.” No one agreed to it, but no one is willing to throw away the fun you’re having by making it complicated with a kiss.

#5 You don’t sleep together.
If you do, you will then be considered as Friends with Benefits. It’s a tad more intimate than being in a flirtationship, but it also has worse repercussions like a potential unwanted pregnancy and a bigger emotional hang-up over each other.

#6 You never say “I Love You.” 
Why would you? If you do, you’re practically on the losing end if they don’t reciprocate. If they do feel the same way, then great! But you could potentially bring in the complications that go with an actual relationship.

#7 You don’t complain about the girlfriend/boyfriend.
This is one of the biggest disadvantages about agreeing to be in a flirtationship. You went in knowing that the person you’re flirting with has a significant other. If you do complain, your flirtationship partner might reject you for your complaints or find you presumptuous to think that you have a right to complain.

#8 You treat each other more like friends rather than a girlfriend or boyfriend. 
The flirting comes and goes, but flirtationships usually revolve around the two of you making it all about your friendship. No matter how much flirting you do, you never forget that you are, first and foremost, JUST friends.

#9 People don’t understand what’s going on. 
 They are aware that you two are in a flirtationship, but they usually don’t get why you won’t do anything about it or at least break it off. It’s even harder to explain because they have to be in your situation for them to see everything that happens in your pseudo-relationship.

#10 You can’t label it. 
You’re not together, but you’re not not-together. It’s complicated, you say. It just isn’t the right time, one of you says. No matter what the reason, it’s hard to explain to people what you are doing exactly. If necessary, you can at least relax knowing that someone invented a term for what you guys have: A Flirtationship.