Bad habits that Hurts into relationship

Are you subconsciously doing things that could hurt your relationship? See these 16 bad habits to know if you’re hurting your lover without realizing it.

 

All of us have a few bad habits that we don’t realize.
Sometimes, these habits could be silly or cute.
But at most other times, these subconscious bad habits could end up hurting you or distancing you from the one you love.
When you fall in love with someone, you can’t see their bad habits, at least not until you’re past the stage of infatuation.
And likewise, your partner won’t see the bad in you because they’re so smitten by you and your love for them.
But once the rose tinted veil of infatuation sweeps past your eyes, it’s only then that the nagging habits start to reveal themselves.

Bad habits that turn into relationship breakers
You can’t change who you are, can you?
And if you have a few bad habits that could play the part of a deal breaker in your romance, you may realize it only when it’s too late.
After all, it’s easier to deny that you have faults than to accept that you may be flawed, or that your behavior has a significant role to play in the drift between you and your lover.
Now not all bad habits could affect your relationship for the worse. But there are a few which your partner could overlook for a while, until those habits sow the seed that could split the ground in your perfect relationship and give way to other critical differences.

16 silly bad habits that can hurt your relationship
Are you indulging in any of these 16 bad habits in your own relationship? These habits may seem trivial to many, but it’s these very habits that could go from a minor annoyance to a big reason for a break up soon enough if you don’t keep an eye on them.


#1 Taken for granted. 
You know your partner’s sweet and caring. And you love them for it. But do you remember to appreciate your partner and thank them for all the little things they do, be it finding your keys or opening the doors for you?
You may think it’s silly to constantly thank your partner for every little thing they do. But chances are, you may start taking these sweet gestures for granted even before you realize it, and they’d turn into expectations instead!

#2 Lover pleaser. 
You try really hard to please your partner, but you get really upset when your partner doesn’t realize you’ve done something for them. And yet, you continue to do nice things for them all the time *which they take for granted* and eventually turn into a relationship martyr.
If your partner takes you for granted, talk to them about it. Bottling your rage or sadness will not help you. Perhaps, your partner didn’t even realize that you’ve done something sweet for them. Communicate and express yourself now and then, and stop trying to be a helpless people pleaser.

#3 Testing your partner.
  You intentionally make big demands or throw tantrums just to see if your partner cares enough to go the extra mile for you. These petty tests are rather common at the start of a new relationship when you’d want your lover to prove their love for you, but don’t carry this habit into the later stages of love or your constant games and tests would annoy your lover.

#4 Blame games. 
Don’t put the fault entirely on your partner if you believe you have a small role to play too. It’s easy to point a finger and accuse your partner for the mess that both of you are in. But by doing that, your partner would feel cornered and helpless, and even angry and hurt.
On the other hand, by sharing the blame or acknowledging your role in the mistake, you’d be giving your partner the emotional support they so badly need at that moment.
#5 Silent treatment. Do you choose to ignore your partner instead of talking about something that’s hurt you? You’re not alone. Many men and women would rather sit down in the corner and stare at the ceiling than answer their partner when they’re annoyed for some reason. Never do that because you’d only end up hurting your partner, make them feel miserable, and hate you at the same time.

#6 Unbalanced expectations.
Do you have high expectations from your partner, and expect them to have lower expectations from you *because you’re too busy providing for the family or busy doing something else?*
The roles between a husband and a wife or a boyfriend and a girlfriend could be different, but that gives no right for one partner to demand more from the other partner, and give less in return.

#7 Monosyllables.  
Don’t answer in monosyllables in the middle of a conversation. Period. Answering with a ‘yes’, ‘no’ or an ‘hmmm’ is just a rude thing to do, even if you’re pretending to be concentrating on something else.
When your partner tries to communicate with you, try to answer back in open ended questions. It’ll help both of you interact better and understand each other better. You need to remember that conversations with monosyllables usually end up dead in a minute or two, and over a period of time, your monosyllabic answers would just push both of you apart.

#8 Don’t be a brat. 
Do you constantly like having things your way? It could be as silly as watching a genre of movies you enjoy or dining out at places that you like. Your partner may find your tantrums cute to begin with, but if you always want things your own way, there will come a time very soon when your partner would snap and just hate everything you like because they’re so sick of it!

#9 Making a scene in public.  
Don’t yell at your partner or humiliate them in public or when someone else is around. Your frustrations may be valid and you may have every good reason to accuse your partner of something, or walk away from them. But ridiculing your partner or hurting them in public will do a lot of damage to their ego, and that’s something that won’t heal very soon.

#10 You lie. 
For the silliest of reasons! And you just can’t help yourself. You may be lying to your partner because you’re afraid of their temper, or because you don’t want to appear weak in front of them. The reasons could be several, but the end result is almost always the same. Lies affect relationships negatively, and will lead to loss of trust. Stop lying and learn to confront the truth, you’ll have a much better life.

#11 “I don’t want to talk about it!”
Avoiding discussions, especially if it’s stressful may seem like the easy thing to do at a particular moment. But stuffing all the difficult conversations in some dark corner will only leave you more stressed, and leave your partner frustrated and angry. As difficult as a particular decision or a relationship conversation may be, you can solve it only by talking about it with your lover. Remember, every journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.

#12 You get irritated easily.
Do you find yourself getting irritated with your partner now and then, and have no idea why you feel that way? In all probability, there’s a subtle reason behind why you’re annoyed with your partner. So instead of snapping at them or behaving in an irritable manner, sit down and ask yourself why you’re feeling annoyed. Or better yet, tell your partner that you feel annoyed, but can’t figure out why you’re feeling that way. Believe me, you’ll feel a lot better almost the very second you say that to your lover!

#13 Every moment is together time.
Do you spend every waking moment *other than work* with each other? You could scoff at other couples who do things individually and believe you’re the better couple because both of you do everything together. But in reality, doing every single thing together can do more harm than good because it stops both of you from having your own individual lives.

#14 You don’t compliment enough.  
When was the last time you complimented your partner when they dressed up for you? As the years go by, it’s easy to overlook the little things that your lover does that makes them awesome and take it for granted. Compliment your partner often and let them see that you still admire them, and are awed and smitten by them.

#15 Time for friends. 
Do you subconsciously nag your partner or get annoyed with them when they leave you alone and go out with their own friends? This is pretty common, and there’s a good chance you feel it if your partner has more friends than you do or if you’re a loner. But remember, hanging out with friends now and then isn’t all bad. It gives both of you the kind of space you both need to grow as individuals.

#16 You don’t discuss the future. 
Firstly, do both of you have common goals for the future? Most couples don’t talk about the future at all, and when it comes to making a decision, you may feel like you got the short end of the stick.
Don’t avoid discussing about the future just because both of you have contrasting opinions. It’ll only push both of you further away. Communicate with each other and try reasoning the differences out. As hard as it may seem, it’s always better than avoiding confrontations in love.

How to Talk to Your Crush and Make Them Fall for You!

Use these 13 sneaky ways to initiate a conversation and talk to your crush. Before you know it, your crush would have a bigger crush on you instead!

 

Talking to your crush and professing your love to them is actually the easy part.
Building the foundation perfectly to ensure that your crush is actually just as crazy about you as you are about them, well, that’s the tricky part.
Read the first part to know about the 15 tips to make your crush notice you and like you back before you use these tips on how to talk to your crush.
Using the tips to get your crush to notice you the right way will definitely work wonders in your effort to get them to like you.

How to talk to your crush
The thought of striking a conversation with your crush could make you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach.
But if you take things slow, and focus on the three stages mentioned in the introduction, the attention stage, the chemistry stage and finally the conversation stage, you’d realize that even before you start talking to your crush, your crush would already have a crush on you!
STAGE 3 – 8 ways to initiate a conversation
If you followed the first two stages to the tee, your crush probably likes you already, and they’d assume they’re the one who has a crush on you, and not the other way around. Now all you need to do is initiate a conversation subtly, without making it too obvious that you’re looking for excuses to chat them up.
Use these 8 ways to initiate a conversation with your crush. You can use just one of these tips, or use many of them. As long as you don’t make it obvious that you’re faking a meet-cute, it’s all perfect for you!
But just a word of caution to play it safe, don’t stretch the first time you talk to your crush into a long conversation immediately unless there’s a good opportunity to do so. It should be brief and quick, and should be just long enough to make both of you feel like acquaintances.

#1 Ask for help.  
The easiest way to chat up a crush is by asking them for help. If you notice your crush standing nearby, pretend like you’re looking for something, a book or a particular person. Look around dramatically and impatiently, and pretend like you’re almost panicking because you’re already late for something.
And all of a sudden, lock eyes with your crush, and ask them a question, “hey… did you notice a book lying around here?” or “I’m sorry, but did you see a girl walk past here just now?”
Once your crush answers your question, continue to look around for a few more seconds, and exchange a fleeting glance, nod or smile and walk away like you’re flustered and busy. Don’t start a conversation here, or it’ll appear like you were just faking it to chat them up. There’s always a next time to talk to your crush for longer.

#2 Drop something.
 If you’re walking in front of your crush or walking past them, *accidentally* drop something of little value like a pen or a piece of paper. As long as your crush sees it fall, they’d definitely use the excuse to strike a conversation with you. And even if your crush doesn’t notice it falling, you have nothing to lose.

#3 Use social media. 
Comment on something your crush comments on, as long as both of you have a common friend. You don’t need to answer your crush directly, just be seen by them. Your crush will surely check your facebook page and try to get to know more about you.
You need to remember that the secret behind getting a crush to like you is to make them believe they’re the ones who are more curious about you!

#4 Smile while walking past your crush. 
When you’re walking past your crush and their friends aren’t around, just smile fleetingly or say hi to your crush. Don’t stop and chat though, just say hello and walk past them.
As long as you’ve built the chemistry up in the earlier stages, your crush would be waiting to talk to you the very next time both of you bump into each other.

#5 Get friendly with your crush’s friends.
Do both of you share any common friends? Try to get to know them better. Don’t tell this friend about your crush. Instead, just try to strike up a conversation with the friend now and then. It’s a great way to get to know your crush without approaching them directly.

#6 Use your friends. 
If you’re hanging out with your friends and your crush walks past you or sits down somewhere near you, use your friends to send the message across. When they tease you or constantly stare at your crush, it would embarrass your crush while making them fall for you harder.

#7 Bumping into each other. 
 If you bump into your crush, accidentally or otherwise, don’t be shy. Instead of walking away or looking the other way, smile, wave or say hello. Both of you have been exchanging glances for far too long to miss out on an opportunity like this! But keep the conversation short the first time.

#8 Send a facebook request. If both of you have been exchanging flirty glances on the streets and commenting on the same posts on facebook, that’s enough of an excuse to get friendly online. After all, chatting on facebook does take a huge load of pressure off face to face conversations.
After the first conversation – Don’t overdo it
When both of you start waving hellos and talking to each other, your crush may give you a lot of attention, but don’t get clingy or fall all over your crush. Play it cool and make it seem like mutual interest rather than a one sided crush. Avoid giving too much attention all at once, and your crush will pursue you just as much as you pursue them.
Avoid falling into the friend zone. This usually happens when you go out of your way to help your crush. Be nice and friendly, but tease your crush and leave them hanging instead of trying to please them all the time.
Don’t be jealous. Don’t get jealous or rude when you find your crush talking to someone else. Remember, both of you aren’t dating yet, and you have no right to tell this person who they can or can’t talk to. If you show off your displeasure to your crush, they’d only get more annoyed with your behavior. Just pretend like it doesn’t bother you.

5 tips to build the romance with alone time
The easiest way to make your crush get attracted to you is by spending time with each other when no one’s around. If you notice your crush and you’re with your friends, excuse yourself and walk up to your crush and start a conversation. The more alone time both of you get, the faster the attraction would build and the stronger the infatuation.
#1 Eye contact. Make eye contact while talking to your crush. Look into their eyes while saying something, and hold your gaze. It’ll seem awkward at first, but it’ll send the message that you like this person.
#2 Smile and laugh. Don’t be boring when you’re spending alone time with your crush. Smile, laugh and tease your crush.
#3 Compliments. Compliments work wonders in a conversation. It’ll bring both of you closer, and it would make your crush start flirting with you even if they don’t realize it themselves. 
#4 Talk about common interests. Try to find common ground in conversations. Find out more about things they like, be it movies, shows or anything else. When both of you find something in common, it’ll give both of you a chance to bond over common interests.
#5 Text and call each other. Exchange phone numbers and text each other. And if you want to get flirty and naughty, text each other later in the evenings or at night.

Asking your crush out
You can follow all the steps here, but if you make a mistake at this point, everything you’ve built up to this point could come crashing down like a house of cards.
Don’t make the mistake of telling your crush you like them or want to date them too soon into the flirting. Rushing this part can ruin everything if your crush isn’t ready to date you yet.

Instead, invite your crush out to spend time with you. Ask your crush if they’d like to join you for lunch or coffee sometime. Tell them about a new place you’ve been waiting to check out, and that you would love to take them there.
It may take a few dates for both of you to feel the romantic connection. But when that does happen, you’ll just know that your crush is ready to answer in the affirmative when you finally ask them if they like you too!